Monday, March 31, 2008

Have tissue ready!



Our daughter, Elizabeth, has captured the essence of adoption and the importance of caring for orphans. She has a very sensitive heart, and I pray that she uses her gift of compassion in her profession as an adult.


Her 8th grade literature class had a writing assignment in December, 2007. She penned the following poem. Once we were home, she rewrote the poem. I share these with you as they are sure to touch your hearts, not only because they were written by our daughter.


LONELY for Wang Meiyue, our Lydia Mei Marie

Lonely lives in a Chinese orphanage
where she cries at night while sleeping
for not having a mother or father.


She wears layers of warm clothes,
plays with her shoes, and waits,
crying to herself because she wants a family.


She has almond eyes, a soft face,
red cheeks, and a baby toothed smile,
with a lonely heart wanting a mother's love.

Lonely does have a family
in a place faraway, waiting for her
already loving her,waiting very impatiently.


Lonely dreams of having siblings,
not always dreaming but wanting,
hoping they long for her, too,and they do.


LOVED

Loved lives in our home
where she smiles day and night
for she's with her mother and father.


She wears cute baby clothes,
plays with blocks, and laughs,
smiling to herself because she has a family.


She has almond eyes, a soft face,
red cheeks, and a baby toothed smile
with a healed heart holding her mother's love.


Loved has a family
on the couch nearby, watching her,
loving and hugging her,
not remembering what it was before.


Loved looks at her siblings
and thinks of the time when she hoped
that they were longing for her,
and they were.


To Lydia Mei,

Love, Elizabeth

Saturday, March 29, 2008

Saturday, March 29: It has been a busy week!




Life with a new baby in the house is extremely full in many ways. We truly feel God's blessings on our busy family! Someone mentioned to me that newborns sleep more than 20 hours a day at first. Hmmm. Not sure if I would want that, but there are days I would really like Lydia Mei to sleep through the night or at least take a solid 2 hour nap. For some reason, she has decided that nap time isn't all that great. It is a challenge to get her down for 1 nap. Yesterday, I drove around for an extra 10 minutes to make sure she was really asleep before trying to transfer her from her carseat to her crib!
Lydia Mei has also decided this week that she does not like barrettes in her hair. She takes them out, looking at me with a look of ?defiance?. A good opportunity to practice what NO means. Most days now, she has hair hanging in her eyes. Doesn't seem to bother her. Drives me crazy, though~
So, today....Doug, Benjamin, and Aaron collected food for Cub Scouts, Elizabeth is out running (cold but sunny here), I convinced Jacob he could earn some $ by washing my very dirty van. I plan to run errands BY MYSELF this afternoon. What could be more fun!

Anyway, I have posted a couple of pictures of Lydia Mei on Easter Sunday.



Saturday, March 22, 2008

Saturday, March 22: Certificate of Citizenship!!





Today is a big day for Lydia Mei and she doesn't even realize it! Her Certificate of Citizenship arrived! Yes, the mail carrier was able to bring it through the 12-14 inches of snow that have fallen since Friday morning! Fortunately, today is sunny and not so cold. The snow will not last long!


Lydia Mei is doing great! She is a vocal little girl, loves to have fun, and loves the attention of her brothers and sister. She is trying to roll over, but finds that her shoulder is in the way. She is a squealer. We have never had a child squeal as highly pitched as she can when she is excited.


Night terrors continue. We are praying that she will outgrow these soon. Fortunately, she is happy and lots of fun during the day. I have attached a few pictures taken in the last day or so.


We wish you Easter Blessings and Peace.

Monday, March 17, 2008

Family Pictures





This past weekend, Doug's mom, sister (Diana), and brother (David) paid us a visit. They were able to meet Lydia Mei and get to know her a little bit. We had a great time together. We took a lot of pictures while they were here. Hate to miss a photographic moment! Here are a couple pictures........

First Haircut

Last week, Lydia Mei had her first haircut......actually, just a trim to even things out. Cammy's friend and hairdresser, Lynn, had the honor of giving Lydia Mei her first cut!








And, here she is, post haircut!

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Pediatrician Visit Today: Tuesday, March 11


Well, little Lydia Mei is still little, just not as little! She weighs 16 lbs and 12 oz (up 9 oz!). She is 28 1/2 inches long. She is overall quite healthy. Still not a big eater and definitely not yet interested in table food! In the next days, we will be getting an assortment of lab work just to double check things. We started some immunizations today (ouch!) and she cried, but only briefly. I forgot how hard it was to hold your child while they get their shots. I wanted to cry, too!

Our big accomplishment this week (no, NOT sleeping through the night) is that she had a bath last night and did not scream and cry for the FIRST time. I think there were at least 4 of us in the bathroom watching this unfold. She learned that kicking her feet made the water splash!
She was smiling when we were done!

We are all enjoying this beautiful gift from God. And I enjoy all my beautiful and handsome gifts from God. Truly blessed!

Monday, March 10, 2008

Lydia Mei and Family: Video

Seeing as so many of you were able to create your own video, and I am somewhat computer illiterate, I had Jacob, our son, make a video of our journey to Lydia Mei and the first days at home. We used a song from Jeremy Camp, Beyond Measure. We borrowed a couple of pictures.....thanks for the use of them! Enjoy. The credits go to Jacob, age 15, for the video, and to God for blessing us beyond measure, for taking us beyond our fears of the unknown, and making us His instrument when we have given Him all control!

Saturday, March 8, 2008

Saturday, March 8: 10 days at home already!



It is Saturday and we have been home from China for 10 days already. Lydia Mei has found her feet! (Here she is with bigger brother, Benjamin). We have big brother, Aaron; bigger brother, Benjamin; and biggest brother, Jacob! She has discovered the joy of animal crackers as she can hold them and put them to her mouth. (Cheerios....still too much of a challenge). She is also sitting up more with minimal support. And she hates tummy time!
One thing Lydia Mei is failing at is sleeping through the night. Not sure if we are experiencing night terrors, tummy aches, sore ears, or just infatuation with Mommy or Daddy every 2 hours or so through out the night. Hmm. Pediatrician says the ears look good. Made the change to soy formula. Lots of stimulation here.....big family....maybe her little mind is racing and dreaming?!? She is so good natured during the day, even with her erratic sleep pattern. Praying for resolution!

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

A Couple of Pictures


A couple more pictures. Lydia Mei didn't eat her birthday cake last week....only wanted to play with the plate!

We have been home a week.............

Hardly seems possible that we have been home a week with Lydia Mei. I daresay that Jacob, Elizabeth, Benjamin, and Aaron have grown to love her. Doug and I fell in love with her that first day in China!

The adjustment has not been so easy.....Lydia Mei is not sleeping through the night, though last night she was only up at midnight, 3am, and then 5:30 until her nap now at 9 am. I am tired! I can hardly get a shower in the morning, or get the dishes unloaded from the dishwasher. But familiar words come to mind.....like from my dad: "This too, shall pass." or from Philippians 4:13, "I can do everything through Him who gives me strength." Lydia Mei is a gift from God, as are all of our children. Time is the eternal sacrifice and the eternal reward.

Boy....that was a short 45 minute nap. Gotta run!

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

Adjusting to having a baby in the house









We celebrated Lydia Mei's birthday on Thursday, 2/28. We were just too tired on Wednesday night. Elizabeth and Grandma baked a cake in the shape of a baby buggy. Too cute.

Jacob, Elizabeth, Benjamin, and Aaron are all doting on their new little sister. The play with her, watch her sleep, hold her, run into the house when they return home looking for her. She eats up the attention. She is happy, playful, and has such a sweet personality.

Lydia Mei did go to the doctor the morning after we returned home: ear infection. It is amazing she did not cry or scream during all of our flights home! She has been treated and is now feeling so much better.

Sleeping: still trying to turn her around from China time to our time. Doug and I are recovering from jet lag. Lydia Mei is up every couple of hours at night....maybe just to be sure one of us is still there. I wonder what she is thinking. This is so different from anything she had ever known before: love, good nutrition, toys, more love, attention.

She is a blessing to us and a gift from God.

Wednesday, 2-27-08 Lydia Mei's First Birthday/Going Home!




A bittersweet day as we are excited to be heading home and it is Lydia Mei's birthday. Bittersweet in that it must be a hard day for Lydia Mei's birth mom. I think of her often and what it must be like for her. Exciting for us though....this part of the journey.....to get Lydia Mei is on it's last leg.




We took the bus to the airport in Guangzhou (leave the hotel at 5:30 am, 4:3o pm Tuesday in Michigan!). From Guangzhou, we flew to Hong Kong, from Hong Kong to LA. In LA, we missed our connecting flight to Chicago by just a few minutes due to the length of time it took for us to get through immigration, baggage claim, and customs. We left LA an hour later on another flight, arriving in Chicago to wait for our connecting flight to Kalamazoo.




Lydia Mei did great the whole trip. She rarely cried. Slept. Ate. Played. We had an extra seat for her the entire trip. Unfortunately, Doug and I did not sleep a whole lot.




After being awake for almost 30 hours, we arrived in Kalamazoo at 9:00 pm. Lydia Mei was wide awake, alert, and ready to meet her family. Jacob, Elizabeth, Benjamin, and Aaron, along with Mom and Ferrel were there to greet us!




I haven't mentioned it before, but Mom and Ferrel stayed the two weeks with our 4 children, managing the schedule, getting everyone to where they needed to be, feeding them, and providing for them. For this, we are eternally grateful. This trip would not have been possible without their willingness to help in such a huge way. God provided a good two weeks for them with no illness or major problems. Doug and I did not worry about things at all. We were able to be in touch via "Panda Phone" every couple of days, and by email.




Praise be to God!

Tuesday, 2/26: Last day in China!







At 10:oo am, we did the traditional "Red Couch"pictures at the White Swan with all the babies. Lydia Mei did not like this! She is in the pink dress, crying. Also, we had a picture of Lydia Mei and her orphanage sister, Grace. (Thank you Eddie and Nicole for the great pictures!)

At 2:45, we all boarded the bus for the long bus ride through the sprawling city of Guangzhou to go to the American Consulate to receive Lydia Mei's American Visa, the sealed brown envelope which will have to be given to the Immigration Officer at our entry point in the US (Los Angeles). After a few introductory remarks by the US Official, we took an oath of adoption(?). I cannot even remember the words as I was trying not to cry. We did have to hold up our right hand!
9:00 Luggage packed. All set for early rise at 4 am to leave for home!

Sunday and Monday 2/24 and 2/25


Free days. Did some shopping, played with Lydia Mei. Hung out with some of the families in our travel group. Lydia Mei still did not feel good on these days. Activites were centered around nap times.


On Monday, Shiyan brought all the paperwork to the American Consulate....the very important step to getting her American Visa and immigration paperwork completed.

Saturday, 2/23 In Guangzhou


In the morning, we went with the group to the Medical Exam needed for the American Visas. By this time, our group was joined by 4 other families adopting special needs children from other provinces. We have such a great group! Each family adds to the journey and the memory!


Lydia Mei saw an Ear/Nose/Throat specialist (no ear infection?!?!), was weighed and measured (only 16.25 lbs), and a generalist (pediatrician?). Even though she had a documented fever, they said she was not sick. Lydia Mei certainly did not feel well and looked sick. Thank goodness for baby tylenol and motrin!


During the afternoon, we were able to get a "free" stroller rental because we had some laundry sent out from a local shop. Lydia Mei seemed to enjoy the stroller ride around Guangzhou.


Guangzhou, specifically Shamian Island, where the White Swan Hotel is located, is a breath of fresh air in a busy, heavily populated city. This little island sits in the Pearl River and used to be under the control of the British and French. The architecture reflects this! There are parks, tree lined streets with boulevards, many shops that cater to adoptive parents (all Americans adopting need to go through the American Consulate in Guangzhou before returning to the States), and a STARBUCKS!!!!

Monday, March 3, 2008

Friday: On to Guangzhou 2-22-08




Lydia Mei was not feeling good at all as we packed up for our move to Guangzhou, the city where the White Swan Hotel is located and the American Consulate....the ever so important piece of the process occurs here which is needed to bring Lydia Mei home.




Lydia Mei was miserable during the bus ride to the airport in Nanchang. Her eyes were tearing, she was coughing, had a fever, and somewhat lethargic. She did okay on the plane ride to Guangzhou. Once we were to the hotel, we were able to get settled, but took turns caring for our fussy and sick little girl. She did not sleep well at all. But, what an opportunity to hold and love on our little girl!

Thursday, 2-21-08 People's Park in Nanchang

We visited, as a group, the People's Park in Nanchang. The park is huge and is a respite from the bustle of the city. There is a small amusement park, many retirees exercising, and a few families. Lots of area to walk. It was good to be outside!

Lydia Mei rode in the front pack and was quite cozy! Me too! On the way back to the hotel we stopped at a porcelain shop. Later, we had lunch as a group at the Chinese restaurant at the hotel.

Late afternoon: received Lydia Mei's Adoption Decree, Chinese Birth Certificate, and Certificate of Abandonment. The last line of the Abandonment Certificate states: "Wang Meiyue is an abandoned baby definitely." Oh, how precious our little girl is. I can only believe that her birth mother loved her so much she felt the best thing for her was to bring her to a place where she would be found and brought to an orphanage. Her exact circumstances will never be known, but I thank God that she carried this baby to term and gave her life. Praise God for that!

Wednesday, 2-20-08: Teng Wang Pavilion


As a group, we visited here on Wednesday morning. It is a tourist attraction and quite interesting. The weather was beautiful. We could see the skyline of Nanchang from the top, but couldn't see far because of the air pollution.


On the way back to the hotel, the bus driver agreed to do a McDonald's run. Wow! a taste of home.


In the afternoon, I took an excursion to the Walmart with a couple other women and a dad.....we walked there and took a taxi back. Quite an interesting ride in the taxi as very few obey any traffic laws. The roads are chaotic with taxis, buses, motorbikes, bicyiclists, and pedestrians!


Tuesday, 2-19: A quiet, "get to know ya" day


Lydia Mei and I stayed at the hotel all day. We played alot, got to know each other. Doug made a Walmart run in the morning. In the afternoon, he led a small group to the nearby Buddhist Temple and Pagoda which he discovered on Sunday. Lydia Mei and I also visited with Gracie and Judy in the afternoon.


For dinner, Shiyan arranged a group dinner in the hotel's Chinese restaurant. The food was excellent!

Adoption Day! Monday, 2-18-08


This was a big day. We went with our group to the Jiangxi Adoption Center, located on the 26th floor of a typically non-heated municipal building.


All the Bethany families were there as well as many families with other agencies, all doing the same thing: adopting Chinese daughters! The room was small, crowded, noisy, and chilly. We first had our "family picture" taken. Then we waited for our interview....which consisted of a 5 minute Q & A where we had to promise not to abuse or abandon our daughter, tell why we wanted to adopt her, and describe what our educational plans for her might be. We finally came away with the RED BOOK: Lydia Mei's adoption certificate.


After this, we boarded the bus (chartered bus for the Bethany families) and went to the Public Security Bureau to apply for Lydia Mei's Chinese passport. Then we boarded the bus again and went to the Notary office for a brief interview and notarization of documents.


What a long morning! Lydia Mei was a trooper. Nice and cozy in her bunting.

Sunday Night, 2-17-08


When we took Lydia Mei to our room, we undressed her to find out that she was tiny! Her cheeks may look round, but she was not! We found out that she was not able to sit up, could barely hold her head up, and could not put weight on her legs.


We did find out that she was very alert, interactive, and playful. What a joy!

Sunday, March 2, 2008

Sunday 2-17-08: GOTCHA DAY! Lydia Mei


Sunday afternoon, about the time we were expecting the Bethany bus to arrive, we took a walk down the street. Was I on edge?? Just a little. The anticipation of meeting the group AND holding Lydia Mei was killing me! As we returned from our quick walk, the Bethany bus pulled in. We quickly met everyone and were told that the babies would be arriving any minute!


We all met in a reception room in the hotel, waiting for the babies. The first three babies came in with their nannies. We all cheered when they were presented to their parents. Then the next two babies came in....Lydia Mei and Grace (Lydia Mei's orphanage sister). The little girl we prayed for, hoped for, and waited for. I have tears as I type this. She was in 3 layers of heavy clothing, the outermost layer being a snow suit of sorts. She had the split crotch pants with a diaper on over them. Her cheeks were bright red. Her eyes were big. Her hair pulled into a pony tail on top of her head. God is so faithful. In our forever arms.

Arrival in Nanchang, Jiangxi, China; Saturday, 2/16/08



We arrived in Nanchang about midnight on 2/16/08, after flying from Kalamazoo to Chicago to Beijing to Nanchang. Almost 30 hours with no real sleep! We stayed at the Galactic Hotel, a luxury hotel in Nanchang, which would be our home for the next 6 days. The rest of the Bethany Christian Services group (11 other families) would be joining us in Nanchang on Sunday afternoon.


So, we slept in on Sunday morning. After having breakfast and unpacking, we decided to take a walk and figure out where the Walmart was (need bottled water!) and see the sights.


Walmart is a two story store, on the 2nd and 3rd floors of a tall building. Very busy, lots of people.....spending our yuans!